America loves nudity. Cannot get enough. At the same time, America hates nudity. It makes us nervous. The Motion Picture Association of America (MPAA) is notorious for being strict against nudity in a film while letting violence through, even though violence is much more offensive to our societal standards. Nudity draws attention to our insecurities, things we hate to put attention on.
One insecurity is that of being inadequate. It makes us feel bad to think that we are unattractive, let alone repulsive, so we generally do not think about it or we choose to believe that we are well-endowed, and thus, attractive.
We would rather live without the possibility of being denied our ignorance/illusion than live truthfully, in a world with breasts and penises everywhere, possibly being outshined at every corner.
But what if we were comfortable enough that we could deal? What if seeing one's privies was commonplace? Firstly, big dicks and voluptuous breasts would no longer be as large a deal as they are body parts. Following this, skill comes into frame. One's abilities in the sack are just as important to attraction as one's appearance, but the more comfortable we are with nudity, the more our intellect catches up to the emotional reality of this. In business terms, transparency increases competition, and competition increases the possibility that you are just as desirable as the next supplier.
So how does one become comfortable with the possibility of being small? You have to realize that you are smaller than someone else out there. Or otherwise less desirably proportioned. Someone has bigger dick/pecs/abs, a smaller waist, or bigger boobs or ass.
Accept that, by convincing yourself that that is not a problem for you. It does not mean you cannot satisfy anyone you please. It does not mean you are less attractive. Belief is a skill, and like any skill, it can be practiced. The more you say these things, the more you believe it.
Another popular insecurity is the scarcity frame, the idea that "This is your chance at a sexual encounter! Act now!" or, more accurately, "You Will Miss Out!" You are more invested in the possibility of sex than the other person, which is a big turn-off. It comes off as desperate, and desperation scares people. People are afraid to say hello to you, let alone show themselves off, lest you should think it a come-on or simply an invitation to hit on the person. And thus, words like "creeper" are born.
But, accept the number of fish in the sea, and you will not be bothered with every little fish you can catch. This is not to say that you should treat a prized fish differently from any other. If a supermodel is changing in front of you, treat it the same way you would a person toward whom you feel neutrally. This increases the comfort of the person with you. People will not want to show you their goods if you are going to milk it for all it is worth, whether that means staring or trying to get sex.
How does one get out of the scarcity frame? The best way out of this is by leaving your room. Go outside. PJ's, the Den, whatever you have to do. Take a look! There are tons of potential mates out there. No big deal if one gets away. That means that when you talk to one, even when you are particularly attracted to that person, you can relax, enjoy yourself and not be concerned with holding on to the person.
There is nothing more appealing than allowing someone to be him/herself, letting that person do his/her own thing.
People will love you, and thus flock to you. Behave the way a person not bothered by scarcity would behave, and you, too, will soon not be troubled by scarcity, physically or mentally.
And once you become comfortable with interacting with the desired gender at all, you gradually gain comfort with conversation, flirtation, physical contact and yes, nudity. And then sex, but this article is about nudity.
