Here we go with another set of sexy answers to sensual questions submitted by you, the readers:
I'm in a committed relationship and we have lots of (really good) sex. But my boyfriend looks at porn almost every day, maybe more frequently than that. I'm getting sort of concerned about it, and I'm wondering if I should confront him about it. How much porn is too much?
There's no such thing as too much porn. Well, there is, but it's a whole lot.
To qualify as too much, he'd have to be totally desensitized to real life (and it sounds like he still enjoys physical encounters with real people, like you) or it'd have to be interfering with his life (like he skips class because he has no desire to do anything but watch Ginger blow T-bone.)
Porn can be an ally. But if it makes you uncomfortable, you have to make that clear to him. After that, just let it go. You can't control something like porn, especially when its becoming more and more socially acceptable, but you can voice your opinion and try and prove to him that you're as much a porn star as any of them.
Let him spend his extra time how he wants, but don't be afraid to step up your game in accordance to what he's watching!
I'm bisexual and have been dating this awesome girl for a few months. We do lots of things together, if you get me, and it's really great. But I'd like to explore a couple other things. Basically, I am dying to know if scissoring works.
Yes, if you're willing to work out the logistics and you are flexible. Scissoring is a great opportunity to use a double-sided dildo, if penetration is your thing.
About the logistics, you have to "scissor" together at the right angle for clitoral stimulation, unless you want to cheat and use your hands or an outside device. Manual stimulation requires a slightly more complicated position, but a vibrator, or double-sided dildo as previously mentioned, can be beneficial. But for the purely crotch-to-crotch style, friction is important, and it's a different hip motion than the thrusting you would do with a strap-on. There's also a possibility, though I am still waiting for the papers to be published on this research, that the hip motion alone releases a certain amount of endorphines.
So all in all, yes, scissoring can work. And if you two decide to try it, please call it "clam jousting," my favorite slang term of all time. Thanks in advance.
Can you get STIs in your mouth or throat?
For sure.
Let's see: The gonorrhea bacterium can be found in the mouth, throat or eyes. Herpes simplex virus-1 commonly causes infections of the mouth and lips. Chlamydia can be found in the throat. Syphilis sores happen in the mouth and on the lips. And all of them can be transmitted via oral-genital contact of any form.
And now you know why sex is better than blow jobs. After all, a blow job with a condom is just, well, not as good as sex.
My boyfriend wants to give me a facial. I'm pretty grossed out and want to know if it's a normal request that I should seriously consider. I mean, I swallow every time, and I thought that was slutty. How much further do I have to go? I thought facials only happened in hardcore porn?
Facials definitely happen in real life. Good girl for swallowing, at least.
But here's the thing: While the dermatological benefits are up for debate, you really have to consider the downsides. If you remember to close your eyes and keep it out of your hair, it's pretty easy to clean up. It's not that gross either - don't think about what you look like, because he isn't seeing it the way you would be.
It can be argued that it's moderately derogatory, but so are blow jobs. It's just a little bit more visual than swallowing.
If you really would rather not, but you want to humor your boyfriend a bit, you can give him a taste of his own medicine. Let him give you a facial, but do it really badly. Make grossed-out faces, spit some back out at him, shake your head so it gets all over the sheets. Screw it up for him.
However, if you think you'd like to give it a try, let him know that you're uncomfortable. Don't let your hesitancy hold you back though. It's a good excuse to cut loose and let your inner porn star have a little stage time. Just make sure you invest in a couple extra towels, and definitely make sure you close your eyes and clean up before it congeals or dries.
