It's Friday night; you finished classes earlier today and took your two-hour power nap. Though you feel drained from an exhausting week of problem sets, WebCT quizzes and lab write ups, you couldn't be more excited to go out and express your stress in a sexier way. "This is the night," you say to yourself. "Tonight I will go for the take down."
Your self-assurance may be boiling over, but do you truly understand how the game is played? It isn't that easy. Even though everyone complains that they hate playing games, we all spin the wheel and hope that we'll come as close to the dollar without going over. When it comes to getting any sort of action, it's all about the game, and nothing else. Hookups do not magically happen. You have more control over them than you think. A general process can be followed to help you land one.
Step 1: The Sighting
After checking on the waitlist for the Beirut table, you instinctively begin calculating the binary code (1's are worthy of attention and 0's are overlooked). Then your neck snaps in that unforgettable double take. "Who is that?" You think to yourself. You take a few more moments to get a better look out of the corner of your eye.
The key is to find out who is this person. Being Hopkins, there's usually a one or two degree separation between every person at the party. Find a friend who knows your interest to "randomly bump" into him/her with you in tow. Make some light conversation (what's your major, etc.). Here is the important part: Casually walk away with a simple "Talk to you later!" Do not suffocate the person. Leave them with a feeling of curiosity.
Step 2: Making the Connection
It is not necessary to become best friends with the person that night; however, it is important to leave a lasting impression. The most useful tool in making a connection is eye grinding. This occurs when two individuals lustfully stare each other across the room with mutual feelings of longing. It's an unspoken invitation for someone to make a move and take things further.
First give a fleeting look in their direction. He/she should then look at you after sensing your gaze. At that exact moment, glance over and make eye contact. Take a few seconds to give a coy smile and then look away. The ability to emote feelings of passion and desire using only your eyes is not an easy skill to master but it's worth learning. It can be the greatest turn-on, creating invigorating tension.
Be sure to somehow run into the person again that night. A game of Beirut or flip cup is a great way to flirt. Use any excuse to make physical contact, such as resting your hand on the small of the back to steady him/her for a beer pong shot. Make your interest clear with playful jokes and flirtatious moves up until the end of the evening. Girls, an obvious hint, as silly as it sounds, is to give him a goodbye kiss on the cheek. Gentlemen, be courteous and polite because there is nothing more appealing. For both girls and guys, make some flirtatious touch like a hand grab or arm stroke, but never ever do a pat on the back!
Step 3: Coming In For a Landing
This advice is crucial. You must befriend the person on Facebook. No, I am not kidding. Friending is important because you indirectly exchange contact information. It will also hopefully remind him/her of your shared sexual tension. Your friend request is a forceful swing sending the ball into that person's court. In my experience, after making a friend request, my interest has always returned the favor by sending me a message over AIM. Don't be afraid to flirt online but don't be weirdly aggressive. Example:
Appropriate
SoHawt22: I gotta take a quick shower before class.
Fratboy69: That's a lasting image
Inappropriate
SoHawt22: I gotta take a quick shower before class.
Fratboy69: Think of your loofah as me.
It's still okay if the person doesn't IM you. Try finding out where he or she may be partying this weekend. Just reassure yourself that it's not stalking, it's simply putting in effort.
Once the weekend rolls around, try making simple plans to meet up or at least find out where he/she plans to party. At this second meeting, be more up-front in paying your interest more attention. This is no longer the time to play hard to get. The more aggressive you are in your attitude and in the bedroom, the hotter it will be.
I may have simplified this process, and although these details will certainly help you, it's really about your attitude. Always be friendly, confident and outgoing.
